“When humans experience pain, be it emotional or physical, we tend to avoid it at all costs. We will go over it, under it, around it and away from it but rarely do we go through it. One of the simplest tools I’ve learnt is acceptance; acceptance is the one thing that deprives the Black Dog of his power” (Matthew Johnstone, Speaker & Author of I Had a Black Dog).
I agree with Matthew’s intuitive statement, particularly what he says about pain in general.
“We will go over it, under it, around it and away from it but rarely do we go through it.”
This statement reminds me of another insightful statement I read in The Book of Ruth by Jane Hamilton
Ms. Hamilton writes, “And then finally the way through grief is grieving.”
How simple. How impossible. How true.
Grief hovers like a thick fog that follows its victims everywhere they go to escape its clammy grasp. Grief is like a 15′ Boa Constrictor constantly, slowly squeezing life from its prey.
People I love have depression or unprocessed grief, yet avoid treatment for their illness. They may self-medicate with illicit drugs, alcohol, or video games. Anything but facing the pain and asking for help to go through it. Anything but looking life in the eye and professing, “You’re mine!
Get help! PLEASE get help!
Do not allow pain to be your master. No matter how difficult, push through.
Visit Matthew’s blog at http://ihadablackdog.blogspot.de/