From my writing mentor with my own thoughts and response inserted:
One reason it’s so hard to find a title is that you’re not sure what your book is really about. Is it your search for God? Is it about your negative experiences in several churches? Is it about your search for love and marriage? All of these things can be in the memoir, but if you want to interest someone in reading it you must choose one single prevailing theme for your subject. Until you do this, you won’t know what the right title is.
I DO AGREE THAT I HAVE VACILLATED SOMEWHAT BETWEEN THE TOXIC FAITH ELEMENT OF MY STORY, THE UNUSUAL KID, TEENAGER, AND ADULT ELEMENTS, AND THE JEWISH ELEMENT.
I also think one reason for your difficulty choosing a single topic is that the one most unique thing about your memoir — your bad experience in churches — is something you have very mixed feelings about promoting. You are perhaps afraid of offending people you know from these churches, or of betraying your own positive experiences there, or of making a complicated.
MY CONCERN HAS SOMETHING TO DO WITH ISOLATING ONE AUDIENCE TO APPEAL TO ANOTHER. I HAVE COME TO A PLACE, THOUGH, IN WHICH I REALIZE I CANNOT APPEAL TO EVERYONE. I KNOW THAT i MUST WRITE MY STORY WITH INTEGRITY AND ALLOW PEOPLE/READERS TO REACT THE WAY THEY MUST. I ALSO REALIZE THAT OFTEN CONTROVERSY ATTRACTS MORE ATTENTION THAN A “PEOPLE PLEASING” MESSAGE. LET PEOPLE DISAGREE WITH MY STORY! LET THEM CRITICIZE ME! LET THEM ARGUE! THE ONLY TRUTH I CAN TELL WITH INTEGRITY IS MY TRUTH, AND THIS BOOK DOES EXACTLY THAT.
You can write your concept down on a piece of paper…. resolve your confusion and make a decision about what the book is about.
Once you know you would use in a title and subtitle. Then get creative and write a long list of different ways of saying the same thing. Then let it sit a while, and come back and analyze which works and which don’t work. Start a new list with the ones that work best, and use these to inspire yet more creative examples of how to say the same thing.